You're self-aware. You've done the work. You're stuck anyway.

That's not a failure. It's a sign that something different is needed.

I'm Harry Dreyfuss, a therapist and coach based in Los Angeles. I work with people who understand themselves well enough to know that understanding isn't the problem. The problem is that nothing is actually moving.

My approach is experiential and relational. We talk about your life — and we also find ways to bring what's happening out there into the room, so we can work with it directly while it's actually alive. The goal is change you can feel, not just understand.

In California? Individual and couples therapy, online or in person. Free 15-minute consultation.

Anywhere in the world? Coaching is available worldwide — same approach, different framework. No diagnosis, no records, no geographic restrictions.

What makes experiential therapy different?

If therapy is about the feelings and patterns that show up in your life, the most direct route to changing them is to summon them into the room. Not just talk about the argument you had, but notice what happens between us when the same dynamic starts playing out here. Not just describe the feeling, but actually feel it, with someone present who can help you meet it differently.

Insight is part of this — understanding where a pattern comes from and how it works matters. But insight describes the pattern from the outside. Experiential work puts you inside it, in real time, with room to try something new. That's where the deeper change happens: not in the understanding, but in the doing.

Training

I trained at the California Institute of Integral Studies and in Developmental Transformations (DvT), an experiential method built on improvisation and play. I work at Silicon Beach Psychotherapy in Los Angeles.

You may also know me as Paul from Trauma Dump with Lou Wilson.

The first step is a free 15-minute consultation. We'll figure out together whether we're a good fit and what kind of work makes sense.